Are you a hero or a victim? Self-esteem activity for teenagers
Main aim: Play the correct part and perform the correct role in your life’s story. This activity emphasizes on the importance of not building a victim-mentality and teaches the teenager to feel empowered despite life’s challenges.
- Name: Becoming a Hero
- Type: Self esteem activities for teenagers
- Participants: Individuals
- Duration: 60 minutes
- Preparation: None
- Materials: Palm cards (which can simply be a sheet of paper cut into palm-sized pieces) and one A4 sheet of paper
Create a Hero-Victim Quiz for any given situation. The quiz below relates to a common situation faced by teens.
The story so far:
- You and your friends have made plans to attend the Katy Perry (substitute music artiste) concert.
- You ask your parents and they said ‘no’ because the tickets were too expensive.
The participants must write down at the top of the A4 sheet of paper the question “What do I think and do next?“.
Ask the participants to copy each sentence in the “Palm Card Content” section below. The content may be modified to suit the chosen scenario.
The participants must then paste the cards randomly on the A4 sheet of paper below the question, making sure that the palm cards are placed roughly in the same rows as that set out below (Rows 1 to 9).
Once done, the participants must draw an arrow from the question to one palm card in each row that they feel best suit their thoughts.
The participants complete the activity by drawing arrows through an answer for each row.
They are then asked if they are a hero or a victim from their answers and a discussion follows.
Palm card content
Copy each of the following sentences on separate palm cards:
- It’s not fair. All my friends are going.
- It’s not fair but anyway, it’s just a waste of time.
- Fair enough.
- It’s a luxury. I don’t need to go.
- I’m going to lose my friends if I don’t go.
- Not everyone can go.
- We don’t have enough money.
- I’m so embarrassed that I can’t afford the tickets.
- But I really want to go.
- I can help my parents not feel bad.
- I will get over it.
- It’s really my parents’ fault for having such lousy jobs.
- I can try earning the money.
- My friends aren’t really great anyway.
- I can plan for another activity instead or actually, it’s a good time to clear my room.
- I need to find a way to earn money while doing chores (pet sitting, babysitting, mowing lawns etc).
- I’ll never be able to do it.
- I’m hopeless.
- I can make new friends.
- But why should I? No one else needs to.
- At least, if I can’t get enough, I can spend it on something else!
- I will be looking forward to my friends returning as we’ll have a lot to talk about.
- I’ve got a rubbish life.
- It’s worth a try.
- If I can get some, perhaps my parents can pay for the rest.
- I wish I was someone else.
- It’s going to be great!
- Let’s go for it!
- Explain to the participants the importance of empowerment and taking control of a situation.
- Being a hero means setting achievable goals, willing to take a chance and dealing with difficulties, and wanting to fight for the prize. A victim on the other hand is reluctant to try, afraid of setbacks and is quick to give up.
The activity challenges the participants in the following ways:
- to reflect on their attitudes towards challenges and setbacks encountered in everyday life; and
- to gain an awareness of positive thoughts and positive actions that may be taken to lose the ‘victim’ mentality.